Are you a first-time mum searching for tips on how to prepare yourself for your motherhood? Or, are you a second-time mama trying to remember all the things that you wish you had done with your first child? Whatever stage you may be in your motherhood, we're here to help you make this journey a smooth and enjoyable one. This week, we've sat down with three experienced mothers to hear their words of wisdom and ask for advice they would give to pregnant mums awaiting their soon-to-arrive little ones!
Sylvia (mother of three)
"I know it may sound easier said than done, but the best thing you can really do is to just relax and not panic! Make sure you talk to your friends and family around you if you have any concerns, and you'll be surprised at how many people are willing to help you out. Another great way of preparing yourself is to attend childbirth and parenting classes offered at hospitals, so that you know what to expect when your baby finally arrives. You can expect a lot of changes after giving birth to your first child, so it's important to keep calm and relaxed. One of the ways to deal with the pressure of these changes is to attend a mothers' group. Not only will your child be able to meet friends of the same age, but you'll also form great connections with like-minded mothers who are in the exact same position as you. It's honestly one of the my favourite things to do during the week, and even though it only lasts a couple of hours each time, it's enough to relieve the pressure of having to take care of three children 24/7."
Joanne (mother of two)
"For me, the experience of motherhood really comes down to having the right state of mind. There will be a lot of changes in your lifestyle, and one can very easily fall into postpartum depression. Why? Because everything that you do will be for the sole purpose of your baby. You worry if they don't eat or sleep enough, but also worry if they eat or sleep too much. There's no doubt that parenthood is exhausting, but it should also be one of the best experiences of your life. I'll admit that I struggled a bit with my first pregnancy, especially dealing with all the changes in lifestyle after giving birth. That's why, when I became pregnant with my second child, I decided to adopt a completely different mindset. Instead of thinking about the things that have changed and all the things I couldn't do, I chose to treasure the moments that we had together. Be it a good day, or a terrible day, it's all part of the experience."
Linh (mother of three)
"As new mums, it's very easy to get caught up in the minor details of everything. What type of soap should my baby use? What material can my baby wear? At the end of the day, all that matters is that they are happy and healthy. If they cry, have a cup of coffee! Babies know how to settle themselves. If you attend them too much, chances are, they won't end up falling asleep when they need to. My advice is honestly to just place them in their cot, say goodnight and leave. Make sure there are no distractions in the cot - no toys. Give them a goodnight kiss, turn the lights off and walk out. Unless they cry extensively, do not walk back into their room during the night. My older two kids are still terrible sleepers, and I believe it's the result of attending them too much when they were young. That's why I decided to change the way I put my youngest one to bed, and the difference was astounding."